I find this segment a necessary thing to do in my life at this moment. We all come to a time in our lives where we realize the things that are most important versus all the other shit we gave life to that so didn’t deserve it. The same goes for people. There are people that don’t deserve our energy, and we do ourselves a disservice by continuing to give it to them over and over again. This process is called insanity. I have decided that I no longer want to be insane when it comes to relationships. Women can be difficult creatures from time to time (I know, newsflash right) and because of that we can often cause rifts in our sister-ships and they can be damaged to the point of ill repair.
With that being said, I have decided that as I embark on my 50th year of life and my ever going quest to be the best me I can be (daily walk) I am implementing a personal task. Not a resolution as they fail for lack of effort or next year brings new resolutions. This task is to not only better myself and my life, but to hopefully bring a little bit of betterment to my circle and slightly beyond. I am having some one on one sister time with at least 12 ladies (at least 1 per month if it works) to spend some quality time, some eating, drinking, talking, laughing time. My goal by December is to have built better relationships with these ladies and moving forward to continue to lift each other up, be support and love on each other.
I was compelled to start this task because I know how easy it is to drift away from people. How all of a sudden your conversations lessen, you don’t see each other anymore and then the chasm becomes so large and wide you just let it go. I don’t want that anymore, especially if I can help it. I like people, I like to craft. I love food and wine. You can have all those things together in one place. Mind-blown right? Sometimes however you NEED to just pick one person at a time for face time as I call it. Not for hours unless that’s what you want but some good ole, eye contact. Some let me look at you and see you. Ask some questions, but more importantly listen not with just your ears but your heart.
Life is hard enough, our relationships shouldn’t be and certainly don’t have to be. We are supposed to be the thing we want to receive. Love, warmth, compassion, a safe refuge, a friend. You must first be a friend in order to make a friend because like energies connect. Once those connections are made, the genuine ones, the ones that go through some things, fall outs, shouting matches (maybe) misunderstandings, and what I call the come back, now those are the ones to hold on too.
I will close with this. I was once told that everybody you know is not your friend. That has proven to be true time and time again. You can’t be friends with everyone. Life is not set up that way. Being friendly is way different from being friends with. While our lives are not our own you can’t give all of you away. It’s important to keep some for yourself, and share that with those strangers that you are glad you met and now call friends.